space
space
Peshtigo Times
space
space
space
Perspectives
* From Our Readers
space
space
Sports Shorts
* Bulldogs Have Busy Week With Mixed Results
* Area Teams Compete in Shawano Invite
* Cougars Secures Win Over Tough Tigers
* Bulldogs Edge Cougars in "County B" Match Up
* Peshtigo Stays UnBeaten in PackerLand

space
Peshtigo Fire
space
e-Edition
Now Available
For more information
click here
dot
THE CITY REBORN FROM THE ASHES OF AMERICA'S MOST DISASTROUS FOREST FIRE
space
dot
space

From My Window

Issue Date: July 12, 2017

What We Lost - Automatic Dishwashers

By Jane Thibodeau Martin,

A thoughtful friend pointed out something I had not thought about when he read the column on dishwashers. "How much time did a human dishwasher and a human dish drier spend talking to one another over the sink?" That "togetherness time" during not only this work task, but many others, has been lost. I reflected that my sister and I were busy commiserating, complaining and teasing as we stood together doing the dishes by hand. There was no TV visible; no texting, tweeting or posting to be done; and no radio in our kitchen. Sometimes we'd sing the songs we learned at school, or planned out the next adventure in the yard when our loathsome chore was done. We even played a game we called "Joseph Time" which involved running from the sink to the refrigerator and eating cabbage in a competitive way. (Please do NOT ask me to explain the origins of this game. I have NO idea.) It is true that there is something that was meaningful lost in the automation of chores, and reduction of "shared family work tasks" in general.

My husband grew up in a large farm family where the kids earned money with a "pickle patch." The tending of this garden was another example of sibling time together, with plenty of opportunity for friendly banter as there was no other diversion available as they worked outdoors. The kids were also in charge of butchering chickens together " a necessary task, made easier and more enjoyable with the extra hands available to lighten the workload.

I can't recall a single chore my two kids did together on a regular basis. There are probably several factors in play for these changes " automation like dish washers is part of it, but also families have gotten much smaller. My husband was one of eight; there was a family close by with 16 children. Fewer families now make their living as farmers or ranchers, so there are less outdoor chores " the ones left in non-farm families, like mowing lawn, are one person tasks. And there are a lot of people who think our children are totally overscheduled between school, sports, clubs and hobbies.

Even our long childhood car rides, with six of us packed into my father's VW bug, were opportunities for long conversations. Dad didn't believe in stopping until he reached his destination, so we'd look out the window and point out things to each other, or play Old Maid cards in the cramped back seat to pass the time. It could have been a miserable trip, given the crowding, but we helped each other make the best of it.

My siblings and I have a tradition of meeting most years for some sort of group work project. Those projects now sometimes include some of the grandchildren, and we enjoy the satisfaction of pooling our diverse skill sets to build something, or tear something down, to benefit a family member. But more important is the time we spend reminiscing and teasing. It always brought my late father, and my mom, special joy to have "all the kids" home again, if only for a couple of days. The "work" is the reason we all make it a point to be in one place at one time instead of splitting up our visits, and I am not sure we'd prioritize the synchronization of the visits without that task-based focal point.

I don't know what the answer is to this change in our lifestyles. We really can't go back, but it is good to search out ways to establish bonding time with family members, and doing that over "work" is one of the best ways to do it. "TV free" time; banning the phones at the dinner table, and getting kids outside and unplugged are also worthwhile pursuits, but it's not quite the same as doing something to benefit something or someone, but especially the family unit.

There is a well-known saying "the family that prays together, stays together." I also think families "work at the task, and treasure the memories." Or "the families who work, don't go berserk."



You can reach me for commentary, alternative viewpoints or ideas at this e-mail address: Janiethibmartin@gmail.com.


Recent stories, opinions and photos

Issue Date Department Headline
09-13-2018Obituaries
Martin Colburn

09-13-2018Obituaries
Susan Delaurelle

09-13-2018Obituaries
Sandra Dubovenko

09-13-2018Obituaries
Alice M. Forslund

09-13-2018Obituaries
Meho Hukarevic, Jr.

09-13-2018Obituaries
Jane F. Kloida

09-13-2018Obituaries
Sharon A. LaFond

09-13-2018Obituaries
Wilbert E. Leino

09-13-2018Obituaries
Donald Mariucci

09-13-2018Obituaries
Emil "Butch" Mittag

09-13-2018Obituaries
Jane Newlin

09-13-2018Obituaries
Joyce P. Peterson

09-13-2018Obituaries
Patricia A Peterson

09-13-2018
Maxine R. Schmoeckel

09-13-2018Obituaries
Rhonda Sowle

09-13-2018Obituaries
Jean L. Vieth

09-13-2018
Country Cousin

09-13-2018Perspectives
From Our Readers

09-13-2018Perspectives
From My Window

09-13-2018Sports
Bulldogs Have Busy Week With Mixed Results

09-13-2018Sports
Area Teams Compete in Shawano Invite

09-13-2018Sports
Cougars Secures Win Over Tough Tigers

09-13-2018Sports
Bulldogs Edge Cougars in "County B" Match Up

09-13-2018Community - Wausaukee
Presbyterian Church Fall Dinner Oct. 20

09-13-2018Community - Wausaukee
Co. Horse Exhibitors Qualify for State

09-13-2018Community - Wausaukee
10th Annual Village Wausaukee Fall Fest

09-13-2018Community - Crivitz
Bellin Health-Crivitz Monthly CPR Class

09-13-2018Community - Crivitz
Crivitz VFW Post Essay Competitions

09-13-2018Community - Crivitz
Cancer Benefit for Elysia Mireles

09-13-2018Community - Crivitz
Author to Speak at Crivitz on Sept. 13

09-13-2018Community - Coleman
Coleman School Board To Greet New Staff Sept. 17

09-13-2018Community - Coleman
Coleman Fire Department Open House, Booyah Sale Is Oct. 7

09-13-2018Community - Coleman
Meyers Family Held Family Reunion Sept. 2

09-13-2018Community - Coleman
Benefit for Walker Family

09-13-2018Front Page
Peshtigo Zion Lutheran Church To Celebrate 150th Anniversary

09-13-2018Front Page
County Board To View 2019 Budget Sept. 18

09-13-2018Front Page
Get Information Sept. 17 On New Sex Offender In Pound

09-13-2018Front Page
Explosion and Fire Damages Two Silos At Marth Pellet Co.

09-13-2018Front Page
Insight Into Parkinson's Conference in Menominee

09-06-2018Obituaries
Marian J. Allen

09-06-2018Obituaries
Helen Basak

09-06-2018Obituaries
Carol (Beyer) Bassen

09-06-2018Obituaries
John D. Bolen

09-06-2018Obituaries
Glenn Casper

09-06-2018Obituaries
Roy Dennis

09-06-2018Obituaries
Mary R. Ferris

09-06-2018Obituaries
Rolyn Gilligan

09-06-2018Obituaries
Kathleen Grinsteiner

09-06-2018Obituaries
Shirley M. Halvorsen

09-06-2018Obituaries
Joyce E. Hawkins

09-06-2018Obituaries
Robert A. Koscher

09-06-2018Obituaries
Joseph M. Larson

09-06-2018Obituaries
John C. Lyman

09-06-2018Obituaries
Dorothy J. McCash

09-06-2018Obituaries
Donald C. Ratayczak

09-06-2018Obituaries
Margaret M. Schmidt

09-06-2018Obituaries
Shirley M. Schounard

09-06-2018Obituaries
Sharon A. Szabo

09-06-2018Obituaries
Myrtle M. Van Laarhoven

09-06-2018Obituaries
Tyler G. Walker

09-06-2018Obituaries
Robert G. Westoff

09-06-2018Obituaries
Nancy J. Wituschek

09-06-2018Obituaries
Shirley Zoeller

09-06-2018Perspectives
Country Cousin

09-06-2018Perspectives
Trail Camera Stars

09-06-2018Perspectives
From our readers

09-06-2018Sports
Peshtigo Stays UnBeaten in PackerLand

09-06-2018Sports
Peshtigo Wins Tri-City Match-Up

09-06-2018Sports
DNR Conservation Wardens reminder to ATV and UTV riders: "Wear it, Wisconsin!"

09-06-2018Sports
Hansen/Polomis Top Area Runners At Irish Waters

09-06-2018Community - Wausaukee
50 Unites Blood Needed for Sept. 10

09-06-2018Community - Wausaukee
Big Wausaukee Fall Fest Oct. 6

09-06-2018Community - Wausaukee
Legion Post 66 Meeting Sept. 8

09-06-2018Community - Wausaukee
Silver Cliff Auxiliary To Meet Sept. 10th

09-06-2018Community - Crivitz
31st Annual Ruffed Grouse Society Sportsmen Banquet

09-06-2018Community - Coleman
Equity Big Tractor, Truck Pulls, Bands Sept. 15th

09-06-2018Community - Coleman
Utility Board To Meet Sept. 10

09-06-2018Community - Coleman
Pound Fire Dept. Gets WPS Grant

09-06-2018Community - Coleman
Coleman HS Class of 1957 Reunion Sept. 14

09-06-2018Front Page
Thousands Pay Tribute To Vietnam Heroes During Wall That Heals Visit

09-06-2018Front Page
Name Richard Badgley As New Peshtigo Police Chief

09-06-2018Front Page
Family Seeks Reopening Of Cottage Lane Bridge

09-06-2018Front Page
Two Men Die In Marinette County Crashes Monday

09-06-2018Front Page
Public Services Committee Airs Inmate Phone Call Costs

08-29-2018Front Page
Large Caravan Welcomes Wall That Heals To Crivitz

08-29-2018Front Page
Burmeister Approved As Highway Commissioner

08-29-2018Front Page
Crivitz School Holding Open Houses Aug. 30

08-29-2018Front Page
To Name New Chief Sept. 4

08-29-2018Front Page
Marinette County Fair Draws Record Crowds Despite Rain

08-29-2018Community - Coleman
Flag Burning at Coleman Sept. 4

08-29-2018Community - Coleman
Flag Burning at Coleman Sept. 4

08-29-2018Community - Coleman
Coleman HS Class of 1957 Reunion Sept. 14

08-29-2018Community - Coleman
Coleman 1952-58 Classes Reunion

08-29-2018Community - Coleman
Coleman Board To Meet Sept. 4

08-29-2018Community - Crivitz
Legion Labor Day Trap Shoot Sept. 1

08-29-2018Community - Crivitz
Benefit For Annette Bevier

08-29-2018Community - Crivitz
Book Sale at Crivitz Library

08-29-2018Community - Crivitz
Cornhole Benefit for Cancer Victim

08-29-2018Community - Pembine
Elderly Services Sign Up for Living Well

08-29-2018Community - Pembine
Amberg Historical Society Museum Opens Sept. 1, 3

08-29-2018Community - Pembine
Beecher Okays Liquor License for 4-Seasons

08-29-2018Community - Pembine
West Shore Museum Ice Cream Social Sept. 2

08-29-2018Community - Wausaukee
Silver Cliff ATV Victim Identified

08-29-2018Community - Wausaukee
Northwoods Auction Is Sunday, Sept. 2

08-29-2018Community - Wausaukee
Presbyterian Women List Coming Events

08-29-2018Community - Wausaukee
WHS Class of 1958 To Celebrate 60 Years

08-29-2018Perspectives
Country Cousin

08-29-2018Perspectives
From our readers

08-29-2018Perspectives
From My Window - Edgar Steam Show

08-29-2018Obituaries
Beverly Wagner

08-29-2018Obituaries
Marion E. Verbisky

08-29-2018Obituaries
Mary A. Slempkes

08-29-2018Obituaries
Nickolas E. Sharkey

08-29-2018Obituaries
Edward A. Ochs

08-29-2018Obituaries
Richard R. Klabunde

08-29-2018Obituaries
Steve Hines

08-29-2018Obituaries
Johnnie L. Dietrich

08-29-2018Obituaries
Arling Christensen

08-29-2018Obituaries
Dennis I. Kitchenmaster

08-29-2018Obituaries
Allen R. Urbaniak

08-29-2018Obituaries
Dorothy Torzala

08-29-2018Obituaries
Sheila Koons

08-29-2018Obituaries
John C. Larson

08-29-2018Obituaries
Robert G. Hamm

08-29-2018Obituaries
Steven K. Gromoski

08-29-2018Obituaries
Patricia A. Gamelin

08-29-2018Obituaries
Marvin J. Chaltry

08-29-2018Sports
Marinette Edges Menominee in 112th M&M Showdown

08-29-2018Sports
Bulldogs Hold Off Bears; Coleman Tops Crivitz

08-29-2018Sports
Volleyball Teams See First Full Week of Action

08-29-2018Sports
Area Teams Compete at Gibraltar Invite

08-23-2018Front Page
Wall That Heals Honor Procession On Aug. 28

08-23-2018Front Page
Vandals Continue To Hit At Badger Park

08-23-2018Front Page
County Board Faces Major Decisions at Aug. 28 Meet

08-23-2018Front Page
Marinette County Fair Starts Thursday, Aug. 23

08-23-2018Sports
Gridiron Play Begins With Opening Week Action

08-23-2018Sports
Volleyball Season Begins With Season Opening Invites

08-23-2018Sports
Peshtigo Soccer Opener Ends in Tie with Antigo

08-23-2018Sports
Marinette Girls Earn Silver at Home Invite

08-23-2018Sports
Two Tie for Little River CC Couples Tourney Title

08-23-2018Community - Coleman
Hirings, Resignations On Coleman School Agenda

08-23-2018Community - Coleman
Flag Burning at Coleman Sept. 4

08-23-2018Community - Coleman
Shehows Mark 60th Wedding Anniversary

08-23-2018Community - Coleman
Coleman CCBA Hosts Sell-A-Bration

08-23-2018Community - Crivitz
Middle Inlet Weathers Storms, Road Work Still On Schedule

08-23-2018Community - Crivitz
Set Aug. 28 For Crivitz School Budget Hearing

08-23-2018Community - Crivitz
Crivitz Youth Cheer Registration Aug. 27

08-23-2018Community - Crivitz
Loomis Historical Pot Luck Sept. 6th

08-23-2018Community - Wausaukee
Under the Lights Entertainment Teams Up with Wausaukee Enterprises

08-23-2018Community - Wausaukee
Athelstane Fire Department Repays $13,000 To Town


space
Peshtigo Times
WEB Poll!
Do you think the economy is moving in the right direction?
space Yes
No
Undecided
space
TO VOTE CLICK
YES, NO or UNDECIDED

Suggest a Question
space .
space
FRONT
space
.
space
CLASSIFIEDS
space
.
space
COMMUNITY
space
.
space
GUEST BOOK
space
.
space
NEWS
space
.
space
OBITS
space
.
space
PERSPECTIVES
space
.
space
SPORTS
space
.
space
SUBSCRIBE
space
.
space
.
space
PESHTIGO FIRE
space
.
space
CUSTOM PRINTING
space
.
space
TIMES' SAVER
space
.
space
Click for Peshtigo, Wisconsin Forecast
FORECAST
space
Quick...
News or Ad Search
Enter News key words.
Enter Ad key words.



Peshtigo Times
841 Maple St
PO Box 187
Peshtigo, WI 54157
Phone: 715-582-4541
Email:
News@
PeshtigoTimes.com

space
Fax: 715-582-4662
© 2000-2018
All right reserved
space
Powered by
WEB Media
Interactive
COMMUNITY
WEB sites